#enbyphobic parents

[thedepressedweasel]

My egg donor was on the phone with Flora earlier this morning, who deadnamed me. Then later that night, when my DNA contributors came home from her house, my sperm donor deadnamed me as well and when I asked him to stop doing that, he wouldn't listen.

Deadnaming people on purpose is the main reason they may kill themselves or cut their families out of their lives forever!

[intrn37]

The only thing you have to worry about when going to an MCR concert is your parents who tagged along

Welp, wish me luck if my parents agree to take me to the Japan or the Australia concerts :/

[walrus150915]

Happy pride, Nimona fandom :3

I gotcha some sketches! Gotta place them in different parts of the post so that you read everything

It's not just drawings I got HEADCANONS for you too!

Off topic but I love Nimona's design SO MUCH it's so AMAZING TO DRAW AGHHH

So

⚧Nimona LGBTQ+ specific headcanons of mine🏳‍🌈

• I've made a conclusion that if queer flags exist in Nimona universe, as well as gay drag bars (so was confirmed in the artbook), then labels DO exist. As well as good old homophobia??? I suppose????

• Nimona doesn't have a specific label because she thinks they are sorta restrictive. Also she just doesn't need one lol, if somebody asked her about her gender she'd say "Nimona"

• She'd wear the heck out of a "protect trans kids" shirt she bought no she ain't feeding into the capitalist machine she stole it

• There was something between Nimona and Gloreth but Nimona can't exactly say what for sure. Not exactly romantic but not strictly platonic. Homegirl had that toxic doomed kindergarten yuri going on😭

• Nimona doesn't look for romantic relationships. She explains it as "romance is for sappy dumb-dumbs" but in reality she just doesn't want to date and romantically love somebody who'll. Eventually die and leave her all by herself again yk (oh this got angsty real fast)

• Maybe one day Ballister tried to help her find her label (because he still tries to put things in boxes) and she just waved it off

Speaking of Ballister

• My man is transgender. Do I even have to explain. Read one of those posts that explain his transness better LMAO

• He started his medical transition as a teenager and had to fit right in not to disrupt the Institute's function. If he's a man then he has to transition QUICKLY so that others don't notice

• Because of that he's a transmedicalist and probably an enbyphobe at the start of the movie, thinking only one type of valid transness exists, and it's the one that is very binary and restrictive

• At the end he realizes the wrong of his ways and works on the internalized transphobia

• He came to terms with his homosexuality a bit easier. "It's always been boys" yk the drill

A couple of words about his boy lol

• Ambrosius is a painfully cisgender gay man. I genuinely apologize to all Transbrosius believers but he gives off STRONG cis vibes can't have a character with this surname dickless

• He's a trans ally but his opinions on trans issues were like. Very closed-minded. He supported but didn't entirely understand. Of course it changed as he went through ✨character development✨

• He was fully supportive of Ballister on his trans journey. Reassured him when Ballister felt like he wasn't enough, tried to make his boyfriend as secure as possible, loving every part of him

There should be a bunch of rather suggestive headcanons but this isn't that type of post LOL

No but think about Ambrosius kissing down Ballister's body and across his chest scars. This is my ultimate dream as a trans man

• Ambrosius also rocks a "protect trans kids" shirt that's for SURE

• He came to terms with his queerness as a teenager and had a whole crisis about it. As a Goldenloin he had the expectations of ✨continuing Gloreth's bloodline✨ thrown at him back in childhood so he sorta internalized that. Then boom, my boy is g a y and oh how gay he is!

• Click here to read about my headcanons on goldenheart when they had only started falling in love :D

• Ambrosius made inoffensive jokes about Ballister's transness. Like yk those goofy puns like "baby you put men in MENstruation", "omg does this make your parents transparent". Ballister smiled at them and rolled his eyes but also silently appreciated his bf's support, although expressed so stupidly

• He also made sure Ballister took proper care of his body because you know Ballister would not bind safely, being a dumb teen

Anyway yeah gay people

Unpopular opinion but we as a fandom should start drawing Bal with a disability queer pride flag

Side characters headcanons, anyone? XD

• Diego came out as nonbinary after the events of the movie. He got that he/they swag going on

• Also Ballister was his queer awakening FIGHT ME ABOUT IT. He had the stupidest, most childish celebrity crush on Bal. Maybe Bal formed Diego's type in men fjfhhx I like to think Diego got a boyfriend whose attitude is similar to Bal's

• Remember those news anchors? (they are so underrated omg) Well Nate Knight has a husband and Alanzapam Davis is a bi queen🙏

• Speaking of queens. Valerin is a straight ally💪💪 I imagine her being quite iconic on the Kingdom's queer side of the internet. They call her "mother" and stuff aajjaj

• the Director is homophobic, need I say more? So is Todd but I actually imagine him being a type of guy to reject his queerness

Haha mailman *winks at yrrtyrrtwhenihrrthrrt*

• Todd had NO idea Ballister was trans. NONE

• The Kingdom has pride events!! Ambrosius and Ballister were very happy and excited to attend those as an official couple once they were out :}

• Nimona attended them every year, ofc she had to hide her true nature but it was fun for her to march along! And it was even more fun when everyone accepted her!!

Anyway yeah this was very fun to make!! Happy pride y'all, lmk what you think ;D

[olderthannetfic]

As a Jewish person I'm so fucking tired of goysplaining. Goyim commenting trying to "well, actually" me about my own faith and traditions because they did a Google search and Google says this and this is so, so obnoxious. I have been trying to explain to one commenter that actually this one name is associated with one gender among Sephardim and another among Ashkenazim but every. fucking. time. it comes up they go, "well Google says it's __ so this nonbinary character's AGAB must've been __" NO. If you have a Sephardi parent and an Ashke parent and you have a name that goes different ways depending on which group you're a part of, that means there's a 50/50 chance (actually less when one remembers intersex people exist) and no amount of "BUT GOOGLE SAYS IT'S THIS" overrides thousands of years of cultural practices.

If they want to headcanon this character's AGAB they can do it in their head like everyone else without trying to "well, actually" Jewish people on our traditions and naming practices. Just say you're enbyphobic and can't imagine a character without thinking about their genitalia and go.

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[corbietalons]

Hey I’m back and a lot has happened! Anyway, I have a new blog but please DM/ask me for the url. I’m sorry to say right now it’s mostly Warhammer 40k in general/Necrons specifically.

Quick rundown of major life events that happened in the last 5 years for everyone who only knows me on here:

1. I finally stopped running from the trans thoughts I’ve expended a ridiculous amount of effort fighting since ~2009. I use they/he and I’m out everywhere but work. I want to apologize for every shitty trans/enbyphobic thing I’ve ever said; it came from a place of deep denial and self-loathing.

2. Related to why I’m finally out: I had a preventive hysterectomy last year. One of the actually valid reasons I had for not medically transitioning was my major genetic susceptibility to uterine cancer. T doesn’t increase the risk much in normal people, but taking it before would have been asking for turbocancer.

3. Through an absurdly unlikely series of events, I went from what looked like a hopeless rock bottom to landing a steady job and two subsequent promotions. I now make about my parents’ combined income when I was a kid, adjusted for inflation. (However, I’m looking elsewhere due to offshoring concerns. If your place is hiring a technical/content writer/manager with low-level management experience, hit me up!)

4. Said job allowed me to buy a nice little house just outside Austin. I’ll hopefully never have to deal with the bullshit of renting again, something I never imagined could happen as of even two years ago.

5. My cat, William, died a few months after my last post here and Mr. Butts followed him two years later. I have since acquired a Chihuahua/Dachshund mix for convoluted reasons, but the short explanation is she adopted me as an emotional support human a couple years ago. I now no longer hate little dogs. I also just got a 4-month-old kitten. They’re both excellent creatures.

6. Between life finally giving me some major wins and continued therapy, I am in an excellent place mentally. Not spending a majority of my waking hours consumed by rage is a welcome new experience.

7. The D&D stuff I was working on in 2018 came out and was pretty well-received (here and here). WotC also contracted me to write a mediocre Adventurers League module that I’m less proud of (but made some nice dosh).

I think that catches everything up. See you around!

[nikolathestranger]

There is something so deranged about seeing a former acquaintance of mine claim that I used to be enbyphobic, when I was maybe 14 at best and had no understanding of gender like I do now, there is in fact something so deeply fucked up about someone still talking about you, sharing your issues anonymously on the web, kind of like a "fuck you for being a bad friend when you were in an incredibly dark place, when you were 14, later 17" and now seeing that person in the same fandom you are in. I don't even know what to say. For a long time I was afraid to even go online, because I truly, honestly believed I was the devil for calling someone out IRL when they used to shit talk me, my work, my characters on their old Tumblr, gaining pity and sympathy from their friends.

Funnily enough, the only reason I contacted them was because I was worried, as they were vague posting about potentially hurting themselves, or at least feeling the urge to, so I approached them. They then, in turn, maybe to make themselves feel stronger, threatened that their friends would rip out my throat, maybe they would do it themselves. I don't even know what to say to this. They then abandoned their old account, claiming their safe space had been breached, and made a new one, it seems.

I found it now because I saw some of their TMA art, thought it looked familiar, and it turns out it is the same person. I don't even know what to think, I just have a headache.

To be clear: Between the ages of 14 to 18ish, I was not a good person, but I wasn't the devil either. I grew up in an abusive household, struggled with depression, eds and many undiagnosed issues. I did not take rejection well, I did not understand how to put out boundaries for myself in a proper manner and I did not understand how to handle mental episodes. I thought this person was my friend, they claimed to be, but when I read on their account how they thought I might be exaggerating my issues, how they only stayed with me because they felt pity and how they did not view me as a friend at all I was heartbroken, furious and just overall spiraled.

Furthermore, I became a very passive-aggressive person, and just overall drew away from them, hoping I could hurt them the same way I was hurt by their actions.

Since then, I have had episodes where my brain does this thing, being a chameleon and trying to copy people, sometimes I tried to copy them, in order to maybe become someone they would like again, before extensive therapy on my part.

Additionally, I now moved out of my parent's place and after a year of homelessness had the time I needed to heal, I can now confidently say I am not the person I used to be, I just wish they would accept that too, and stop calling me their abuser, or still spread weird things about me, it is so tiring. I know tagging them would not help, they would simply block me and feel confirmed in their emotions, this is just me, getting something off my chest, so I can breathe and live on.

[transenbyconfessions]

I've identified as non binary for a long time now and I am so glad that I feel a bit more me but I am also in constant pain all the time. This is because of my mother. She raised me and loves me and cares for me. But not me. She only loves the little girl who she spent all her time with.

My mum sees all non-binary people as jokes, saying its "just another millennium fad". She makes enbyphobic jokes completely unprompted. So I can never tell her who I really am, because she won't accept that.

I love my mum so much, but it is painful knowing she will never love the real me. Only her little daughter.

I love who I am, but sometimes I wish she could too. I don't want to have to cut her out of my life, but I will have to if she can't accept the real me. I just can't stand it.

I thought parents were supposed to love their kids unconditionally. No matter who they were. But the moment I found out who I was, I learned that was never the case.

I have no idea what to do because of this and I am stuck.

Submitted February 24, 2023

[lilliananightshadethesilvermage]

TW: transphobia and dysphoria

I'm nonbinary and use they/them pronouns however I am unable to be out and sometimes struggle with dysphoria because of my chest. Unfortunately my parents are transphobic and enbyphobic. Anything dealing with trans people is a topic I try to avoid because of their opinions. Today my dad and stepmom brought up the topic of trans people and proceeded to misgender a trans celebrity and then say that trans people couldn't be gay. They made several other trans and enbyphobic comments about trans and nonbinary people. My stepmom also said that most trans people are faking it for a trend and that others have a mental illness. I hate having to listen to these conversations as the people I love invalidate my own identity. I don't have anybody to talk to irl so I'm glad I can rant online. Luckily I will be in a space where I can be more open about my identity within a week.

[thedepressedweasel]

California AB 957 being approved and then signed into law is not child abuse, you hateful idiots!!!

You guys are just transphobic idiots who would rather transgender people of all ages kill themselves than transition from one gender to another! The California AB 957 bill is not about abusing children, ever; it is more about protecting people in the transgender/nonbinary community from your blatant transphobia/enbyphobia (I’m looking at you, Senator Wilk). Also, parents who give their children gender-reaffirming healthcare is not abusive; it is just about them allowing their children to make their own decisions for themselves and actually loving them for it. trust me, as an AFAB-nonbinary and genderfluid person who moved back to California and has been living there since the middle of 2020, I really would’ve killed to have parents like that.

Also, what you ignorant idiots are actually doing by whining about that wonderfully life-saving California-based bill is ignoring the real kids (trans and otherwise) that are really being abused (SPOILER ALERT: All abusive parents are actually transphobic/homophobic/enbyphobic assholes).

Now kindly STFU and leave transgender/nonbinary children with loving families alone...AND MOVE OUT TO FASCIST FLORIDA WHERE YOU MIGHT BELONG!!!

[starmansymphony]

(d0n’t rb)

fcghbjnkml i just want to hear someone i know irl to use the right name and pronouns for me but i know it’s never gonna happen

[anneonomus]

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[msinkwell]

i’m so distressed right now.

my sister and father were having a whole conversation about how people who identify as a different gender are creeps and ‘r*tarded’, and kept saying ‘just pick one’ when talking about someone who identified as they/them.

i just hate people like them, i had to stop myself from crying until i got to my room, i just wish people were more accepting and understanding and weren’t so horrible.

the extra fucked up part is that my sister is lesbian so as someone who is lgbt, she should be more understanding, she’s still just as transphobic as my father, not to mention she’s ableist even though she’s a nurse.

[roxie-really-hates-meanies]

@/3am-nonsense for your free blocklist.

After all, she’s a TERF whose blog is full of transphobic and enbyphobic rhetoric because she really hates trans and nonbinary people and will post hateful comments against those who stand up to her.

She also keeps decrying parents allowing their trans kids to be themselves as “child abuse” without even really knowing what real child abuse is (SPOILER ALERT: All abusive parents are actually transphobic if not just homophobic).

No need to send her any hate; just report and block her.

[neopronoun-user-culture-is]

[cw misgendering mention]

Vae/vem neopronoun user culture is not even bringing up that you wanna use anything more niche than they/them pronouns because nobody can even remember/care not to call you female stuff, and enbyphobes are bad enough as is. Oh, and getting so mad at your parents’ misgendering that you nearly change to it/its out of pure spite, but you can’t because ✨social anxiety✨

Neopronoun user culture

[seahorse-dad-in-training]

About me!

Y'all can fall me "B" or "Benny". I'm a nonbinary trans guy who is currently pregnant with a nonbinary partner. The goal of this blog is to spread awareness about being a pregnant trans person, and later on, a transgender parent.

I am open to answer questions, give insight, etc. I will be majorly posting about my own experience and any advice I can think of along the way. Please feel free to share this post to advertise this blog so others who may need it for validation or for education, can find it more easily!

Now, I will be discussing my parenting plans on this blog as well, so if you're against gender neutral parenting, this isn't the blog for you.

Never be scared to ask questions! Id rather get the confusion questions than some random pregnant trans person being made uncomfortable because you didn't ask someone who welcome those questions.

//DNI\\

*truscum/transmeds/TERFS/bigots

*enbyphobes

*p*dos/MAPs/NOMAPs/gross people

*trans/pregnancy fetishists

*p0rn accounts/people who only/primarily share or post adult content

[tiger-moran]

“The Christian Legal Centre, which is supporting Mr and Mrs Rowe, said the couple were being accused of "transphobic behaviour" because of their "refusal to acknowledge a transgender person's true gender". Mr Rowe said: "I am shocked by the suggestion, especially from a church school, that just because we question the notion that a six-year-old boy can really become a girl, we are transphobic."” x

Uhhh

‘I am SHOCKED that just because we don’t think someone can be a gender different to the one they were labelled by other people when they born or very likely even before they were born people think we’re transphobes!’

And they were on just now going “We were almost discriminated against!”

Translation: 'WON’T SOMEONE PLEASE THINK OF THE POOR TRANSPHOBES!’