#enbyphobic parents

[thedepressedweasel]

My egg donor was on the phone with Flora earlier this morning, who deadnamed me. Then later that night, when my DNA contributors came home from her house, my sperm donor deadnamed me as well and when I asked him to stop doing that, he wouldn't listen.

Deadnaming people on purpose is the main reason they may kill themselves or cut their families out of their lives forever!

[walrus150915]

Happy pride, Nimona fandom :3

I gotcha some sketches! Gotta place them in different parts of the post so that you read everything

It's not just drawings I got HEADCANONS for you too!

Off topic but I love Nimona's design SO MUCH it's so AMAZING TO DRAW AGHHH

So

⚧Nimona LGBTQ+ specific headcanons of mine🏳‍🌈

• I've made a conclusion that if queer flags exist in Nimona universe, as well as gay drag bars (so was confirmed in the artbook), then labels DO exist. As well as good old homophobia??? I suppose????

• Nimona doesn't have a specific label because she thinks they are sorta restrictive. Also she just doesn't need one lol, if somebody asked her about her gender she'd say "Nimona"

• She'd wear the heck out of a "protect trans kids" shirt she bought no she ain't feeding into the capitalist machine she stole it

• There was something between Nimona and Gloreth but Nimona can't exactly say what for sure. Not exactly romantic but not strictly platonic. Homegirl had that toxic doomed kindergarten yuri going on😭

• Nimona doesn't look for romantic relationships. She explains it as "romance is for sappy dumb-dumbs" but in reality she just doesn't want to date and romantically love somebody who'll. Eventually die and leave her all by herself again yk (oh this got angsty real fast)

• Maybe one day Ballister tried to help her find her label (because he still tries to put things in boxes) and she just waved it off

Speaking of Ballister

• My man is transgender. Do I even have to explain. Read one of those posts that explain his transness better LMAO

• He started his medical transition as a teenager and had to fit right in not to disrupt the Institute's function. If he's a man then he has to transition QUICKLY so that others don't notice

• Because of that he's a transmedicalist and probably an enbyphobe at the start of the movie, thinking only one type of valid transness exists, and it's the one that is very binary and restrictive

• At the end he realizes the wrong of his ways and works on the internalized transphobia

• He came to terms with his homosexuality a bit easier. "It's always been boys" yk the drill

A couple of words about his boy lol

• Ambrosius is a painfully cisgender gay man. I genuinely apologize to all Transbrosius believers but he gives off STRONG cis vibes can't have a character with this surname dickless

• He's a trans ally but his opinions on trans issues were like. Very closed-minded. He supported but didn't entirely understand. Of course it changed as he went through ✨character development✨

• He was fully supportive of Ballister on his trans journey. Reassured him when Ballister felt like he wasn't enough, tried to make his boyfriend as secure as possible, loving every part of him

There should be a bunch of rather suggestive headcanons but this isn't that type of post LOL

No but think about Ambrosius kissing down Ballister's body and across his chest scars. This is my ultimate dream as a trans man

• Ambrosius also rocks a "protect trans kids" shirt that's for SURE

• He came to terms with his queerness as a teenager and had a whole crisis about it. As a Goldenloin he had the expectations of ✨continuing Gloreth's bloodline✨ thrown at him back in childhood so he sorta internalized that. Then boom, my boy is g a y and oh how gay he is!

• Click here to read about my headcanons on goldenheart when they had only started falling in love :D

• Ambrosius made inoffensive jokes about Ballister's transness. Like yk those goofy puns like "baby you put men in MENstruation", "omg does this make your parents transparent". Ballister smiled at them and rolled his eyes but also silently appreciated his bf's support, although expressed so stupidly

• He also made sure Ballister took proper care of his body because you know Ballister would not bind safely, being a dumb teen

Anyway yeah gay people

Unpopular opinion but we as a fandom should start drawing Bal with a disability queer pride flag

Side characters headcanons, anyone? XD

• Diego came out as nonbinary after the events of the movie. He got that he/they swag going on

• Also Ballister was his queer awakening FIGHT ME ABOUT IT. He had the stupidest, most childish celebrity crush on Bal. Maybe Bal formed Diego's type in men fjfhhx I like to think Diego got a boyfriend whose attitude is similar to Bal's

• Remember those news anchors? (they are so underrated omg) Well Nate Knight has a husband and Alanzapam Davis is a bi queen🙏

• Speaking of queens. Valerin is a straight ally💪💪 I imagine her being quite iconic on the Kingdom's queer side of the internet. They call her "mother" and stuff aajjaj

• the Director is homophobic, need I say more? So is Todd but I actually imagine him being a type of guy to reject his queerness

Haha mailman *winks at yrrtyrrtwhenihrrthrrt*

• Todd had NO idea Ballister was trans. NONE

• The Kingdom has pride events!! Ambrosius and Ballister were very happy and excited to attend those as an official couple once they were out :}

• Nimona attended them every year, ofc she had to hide her true nature but it was fun for her to march along! And it was even more fun when everyone accepted her!!

Anyway yeah this was very fun to make!! Happy pride y'all, lmk what you think ;D

[olderthannetfic]

As a Jewish person I'm so fucking tired of goysplaining. Goyim commenting trying to "well, actually" me about my own faith and traditions because they did a Google search and Google says this and this is so, so obnoxious. I have been trying to explain to one commenter that actually this one name is associated with one gender among Sephardim and another among Ashkenazim but every. fucking. time. it comes up they go, "well Google says it's __ so this nonbinary character's AGAB must've been __" NO. If you have a Sephardi parent and an Ashke parent and you have a name that goes different ways depending on which group you're a part of, that means there's a 50/50 chance (actually less when one remembers intersex people exist) and no amount of "BUT GOOGLE SAYS IT'S THIS" overrides thousands of years of cultural practices.

If they want to headcanon this character's AGAB they can do it in their head like everyone else without trying to "well, actually" Jewish people on our traditions and naming practices. Just say you're enbyphobic and can't imagine a character without thinking about their genitalia and go.

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[nikolathestranger]

There is something so deranged about seeing a former acquaintance of mine claim that I used to be enbyphobic, when I was maybe 14 at best and had no understanding of gender like I do now, there is in fact something so deeply fucked up about someone still talking about you, sharing your issues anonymously on the web, kind of like a "fuck you for being a bad friend when you were in an incredibly dark place, when you were 14, later 17" and now seeing that person in the same fandom you are in. I don't even know what to say. For a long time I was afraid to even go online, because I truly, honestly believed I was the devil for calling someone out IRL when they used to shit talk me, my work, my characters on their old Tumblr, gaining pity and sympathy from their friends.

Funnily enough, the only reason I contacted them was because I was worried, as they were vague posting about potentially hurting themselves, or at least feeling the urge to, so I approached them. They then, in turn, maybe to make themselves feel stronger, threatened that their friends would rip out my throat, maybe they would do it themselves. I don't even know what to say to this. They then abandoned their old account, claiming their safe space had been breached, and made a new one, it seems.

I found it now because I saw some of their TMA art, thought it looked familiar, and it turns out it is the same person. I don't even know what to think, I just have a headache.

To be clear: Between the ages of 14 to 18ish, I was not a good person, but I wasn't the devil either. I grew up in an abusive household, struggled with depression, eds and many undiagnosed issues. I did not take rejection well, I did not understand how to put out boundaries for myself in a proper manner and I did not understand how to handle mental episodes. I thought this person was my friend, they claimed to be, but when I read on their account how they thought I might be exaggerating my issues, how they only stayed with me because they felt pity and how they did not view me as a friend at all I was heartbroken, furious and just overall spiraled.

Furthermore, I became a very passive-aggressive person, and just overall drew away from them, hoping I could hurt them the same way I was hurt by their actions.

Since then, I have had episodes where my brain does this thing, being a chameleon and trying to copy people, sometimes I tried to copy them, in order to maybe become someone they would like again, before extensive therapy on my part.

Additionally, I now moved out of my parent's place and after a year of homelessness had the time I needed to heal, I can now confidently say I am not the person I used to be, I just wish they would accept that too, and stop calling me their abuser, or still spread weird things about me, it is so tiring. I know tagging them would not help, they would simply block me and feel confirmed in their emotions, this is just me, getting something off my chest, so I can breathe and live on.

[transenbyconfessions]

I've identified as non binary for a long time now and I am so glad that I feel a bit more me but I am also in constant pain all the time. This is because of my mother. She raised me and loves me and cares for me. But not me. She only loves the little girl who she spent all her time with.

My mum sees all non-binary people as jokes, saying its "just another millennium fad". She makes enbyphobic jokes completely unprompted. So I can never tell her who I really am, because she won't accept that.

I love my mum so much, but it is painful knowing she will never love the real me. Only her little daughter.

I love who I am, but sometimes I wish she could too. I don't want to have to cut her out of my life, but I will have to if she can't accept the real me. I just can't stand it.

I thought parents were supposed to love their kids unconditionally. No matter who they were. But the moment I found out who I was, I learned that was never the case.

I have no idea what to do because of this and I am stuck.

Submitted February 24, 2023

[supernovassrp]

do not interact with this blog if you are under 21 !!

this is an indie smut rp blog, mostly discord centric — so, naturally, there will be usfw themes on this blog. please proceed with caution!

about mun: early 30s, fluid, they/them, est. i have a job where i deal w trauma all day long & at times get extremely burnt out. i am also autistic & this also leads to burnout. sometimes you will get multiple replies a day from me, sometimes it might take me several days to reply. cat parent, coffee addict, professional at putting my clothes in the dryer & forgetting to turn it on. deleted my old blog because it was cluttered and i was Overwhelmed

i do not know how to respond to one word responses & will likely not respond if you do this!

looking for: patience !! mostly interested in wlw/nb ships bc i'm queer af. may do mxw ships — will not write mlm/nb until we’re familiar w each other. discord rp’s but willing to try other mediums. as mentioned above, this is a smut centric blog ⏤ open to both quickfire pwp and a smut/story balance

dni if: you fetishize mlm, you only use east asian fc’s/you fetishize east asian fc’s, you’re a terf/swerf, you’re a transmed, you’re transphobic, you are a zionist, you are a trump supporter, you have a parasocial relationship w/ a politician, you’re pro-cop/pro-military, you're under 21, you require daily replies

banned fc’s: anyone accused of r*pe, abuse or assault; transphobes; enbyphobes; transmeds (yes this includes h*nter sch*fer); racists; zionists; anyone who is super problematic. just not a fan of barbara palvin, paul mescal, riverdale cast, sofia carson, timothee chalamet

[lilliananightshadethesilvermage]

TW: transphobia and dysphoria

I'm nonbinary and use they/them pronouns however I am unable to be out and sometimes struggle with dysphoria because of my chest. Unfortunately my parents are transphobic and enbyphobic. Anything dealing with trans people is a topic I try to avoid because of their opinions. Today my dad and stepmom brought up the topic of trans people and proceeded to misgender a trans celebrity and then say that trans people couldn't be gay. They made several other trans and enbyphobic comments about trans and nonbinary people. My stepmom also said that most trans people are faking it for a trend and that others have a mental illness. I hate having to listen to these conversations as the people I love invalidate my own identity. I don't have anybody to talk to irl so I'm glad I can rant online. Luckily I will be in a space where I can be more open about my identity within a week.

[thedepressedweasel]

California AB 957 being approved and then signed into law is not child abuse, you hateful idiots!!!

You guys are just transphobic idiots who would rather transgender people of all ages kill themselves than transition from one gender to another! The California AB 957 bill is not about abusing children, ever; it is more about protecting people in the transgender/nonbinary community from your blatant transphobia/enbyphobia (I’m looking at you, Senator Wilk). Also, parents who give their children gender-reaffirming healthcare is not abusive; it is just about them allowing their children to make their own decisions for themselves and actually loving them for it. trust me, as an AFAB-nonbinary and genderfluid person who moved back to California and has been living there since the middle of 2020, I really would’ve killed to have parents like that.

Also, what you ignorant idiots are actually doing by whining about that wonderfully life-saving California-based bill is ignoring the real kids (trans and otherwise) that are really being abused (SPOILER ALERT: All abusive parents are actually transphobic/homophobic/enbyphobic assholes).

Now kindly STFU and leave transgender/nonbinary children with loving families alone...AND MOVE OUT TO FASCIST FLORIDA WHERE YOU MIGHT BELONG!!!

[anneonomus]

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[msinkwell]

i’m so distressed right now.

my sister and father were having a whole conversation about how people who identify as a different gender are creeps and ‘r*tarded’, and kept saying ‘just pick one’ when talking about someone who identified as they/them.

i just hate people like them, i had to stop myself from crying until i got to my room, i just wish people were more accepting and understanding and weren’t so horrible.

the extra fucked up part is that my sister is lesbian so as someone who is lgbt, she should be more understanding, she’s still just as transphobic as my father, not to mention she’s ableist even though she’s a nurse.

[intrn37]

The only thing you have to worry about when going to an MCR concert is your parents who tagged along

Welp, wish me luck if my parents agree to take me to the Japan or the Australia concerts :/

[roxie-really-hates-meanies]

@/3am-nonsense for your free blocklist.

After all, she’s a TERF whose blog is full of transphobic and enbyphobic rhetoric because she really hates trans and nonbinary people and will post hateful comments against those who stand up to her.

She also keeps decrying parents allowing their trans kids to be themselves as “child abuse” without even really knowing what real child abuse is (SPOILER ALERT: All abusive parents are actually transphobic if not just homophobic).

No need to send her any hate; just report and block her.

[neopronoun-user-culture-is]

[cw misgendering mention]

Vae/vem neopronoun user culture is not even bringing up that you wanna use anything more niche than they/them pronouns because nobody can even remember/care not to call you female stuff, and enbyphobes are bad enough as is. Oh, and getting so mad at your parents’ misgendering that you nearly change to it/its out of pure spite, but you can’t because ✨social anxiety✨

Neopronoun user culture

[seahorse-dad-in-training]

About me!

Y'all can fall me "B" or "Benny". I'm a nonbinary trans guy who is currently pregnant with a nonbinary partner. The goal of this blog is to spread awareness about being a pregnant trans person, and later on, a transgender parent.

I am open to answer questions, give insight, etc. I will be majorly posting about my own experience and any advice I can think of along the way. Please feel free to share this post to advertise this blog so others who may need it for validation or for education, can find it more easily!

Now, I will be discussing my parenting plans on this blog as well, so if you're against gender neutral parenting, this isn't the blog for you.

Never be scared to ask questions! Id rather get the confusion questions than some random pregnant trans person being made uncomfortable because you didn't ask someone who welcome those questions.

//DNI\\

*truscum/transmeds/TERFS/bigots

*enbyphobes

*p*dos/MAPs/NOMAPs/gross people

*trans/pregnancy fetishists

*p0rn accounts/people who only/primarily share or post adult content

[northlight14]

Not so alone after all

After a lot of enbyphobic comments are made in Virgils class, zie retreat to the bathroom to have a panic attack. Zie is then found by a student who is able to help zim though it.

TW: enbyphobia, internalized enbyphobia, panic attacks, cursing

 Ships: analogical (platonic or romantic)

Virgil wandered into zir biology lesson, already ready for it to be over. Zie didn’t exactly hate the lesson but it was second last period and zie sat with enough assholes to make the lesson unbearable. At this point, Virgil just really wanted to go home.

 Virgil took zir seat and silently waited for the lesson to start as the other students came pouring in, speaking loudly over each other as they did so. The teacher, Miss Richie, did the register and then got on with todays topic: DNA. Virgil half paid attention as the teacher went on.

 Eventually, Miss Richie started talking about chromosomes. “There are only 2 combinations of chromosomes, XX and XY. Your chromosomes are the thing that determine your gender.” That bit really pissed Virgil off. Zie got that this was high school biology and things have to be massively simplified but that was just straight-up incorrect, on multiple levels. There were so many other types of chromosome combinations and even if there weren’t, chromosomes have never dictated gender. Heck, they sometimes didn’t even dictate the persons biological sex! Zie considered for a moment saying something, but zir anxiety decided against it.

 A boy sitting in the back of the class raised his hand “Miss, what about trans people and all that?” Virgil suddenly felt uneasy. Zie knew all too well the opinions of zir classmates and this conversation could only lead to a bad road.

 “Well, trans people can have surgeries to change their outward appearance but the chromosomes can’t be changed.” Miss Richie answered simply. Virgil prayed that would be the end of it. Zie had only recently been able to admit to zirself that zie’s genderqueer and the idea of telling anyone else made zim feel like all the air had been knocked out of zir lungs. Virgil also knew that zie had a long way to go towards self-acceptance. That means that any ignorant comments would be made without the knowledge that they were talking about someone in room (not like that ever-stopped ignorant teens before) and zie definitely didn’t have the confidence to not be affected by whatever was said.

 All zie could do was hope the universe would leave zim alone this once. But, of course, the universe just couldn’t give zim a break, could it?

 “Miss, do you agree with those people who say there are more that 2 genders?” Virgil felt zirself freeze at that, cautiously waiting for the teachers answer.

 “Well, people are born biologically either male or female. However, how someone feels is different from that.” That last part was cut out by the class practically yelling their views on the subject.

 “Yeah I think there’s only 2” said the boy who originally asked the question.

 “It’s basic biology” said another girl.

 “Yeah, I identify as an attack helicopter” joked the guy sitting next to Virgil.

 And Virgil knew, zie knew, that what they were saying was all bullshit. Just a bunch of high schoolers making comments about something they were uneducated on and likely recycling what their parents had taught them. But knowing that didn’t stop all the air leaving Virgil’s lungs. It didn’t stop the shaking of zir hands in zir pockets. It didn’t stop the tears threatening to roll past zir eyes, risking making zim look like an idiot and outing zim to the whole class.

 Miss Richie continued with the lesson but Virgil wasn’t paying attention. Zie was too focused on getting zir breathing under control while simultaneously trying to mask zir distress from the rest of the class. Virgil just desperately wanted to leave, get as far away from this room and these people as possible. But zie knew it would look too suspicious if zie asked to go to the bathroom right after what had just been said. So zie just sat there until the lesson was over before quickly shoving all zir stuff in zir bag and dashing off to the nearest bathroom.

 There didn’t seem to be anyone in there (although it was kind of hard to tell as the edges of zir sight were very blurry) so zie collapsed against the wall and slid zir back down to sit on the floor. Virgil gasped for air but it didn’t seem to be much use. Not with zir brain screaming at them.

 You’re going to have to see a lot of those students for last period!

What’s gonna happen next biology lesson?!

Or when you come out?!

Why are you even having an anxiety attack over this?!

You’re just being an attention seeker!

You’re probably not even genderqueer! You’re probably just a cis guy wanting to be special!

 Virgil was crying now, hugging zir legs close to zir chest and hiding zir face.

 Pathetic! You’re so pathetic!

“Hey, are you alright?” a sudden voice caused Virgil’s head to snap up. Zie was met with concerned navy-blue eyes framed by their rectangle glasses.

 Virgil wasn’t entirely sure zie could speak right now so zie shook zir head quickly. The stranger (Virgil vaguely recognized them, but the panic and tears made it difficult to see clearly) knelt down in front of zim.

 “Is it alright if I touch you?” Virgil slowly nodded, trying to focus on the calming, monotone voice. Zie felt a hand gently touch zir knee and begin to rub calming circles. “I want you to breath with me, ok? In for 4 seconds…” Virgil recognized this breathing pattern but was grateful to have someone guide zim through it. The first time Virgil didn’t quite manage to hold zir breath for the full 7 seconds but the other student adjusted accordingly and continued, Virgil managing the second time around. Soon, zie felt zirself breathing on zir own without much difficulty.

 Zie felt the stranger pull away and Virgil was able to get a proper look at them. Now zie could see the specs of light in their dark ocean eyes, few freckles along their nose were magnified by their glasses. Their dress sense was very formal, at least compared to Virgil who wore the same purple patched hoodie basically every day. Their tie was tied perfectly and matched their eyes. This was contrasted with their black polo shirt. Their dark brown hair was also brushed neatly.

 “Are you feeling better now” they asked.

 “Uh, yeah I think so. Um…thanks for helping…um?” Virgil mumbled.

 “-Logan and it was no problem. My younger brother struggles with anxiety attacks so I know what to do in these situations.”

 Logan stood up and offered Virgil a hand which zie accepted. Zie caught zir appearance in the mirror, slightly horrified at the sight of zir blood-shot eyes, red cheeks and black eye shadow running down zir face. Zie wasted no time in grabbing a makeup wipe from zir bag and attempting to make zirself look slightly presentable.

 “I don’t believe I got your name.” Virgil chuckled slightly to zirself at how formal the student spoke.

 “It’s Virgil.”

 Logan nodded. “Well Virgil, do you wish to talk about what caused you to have an anxiety attack?” Virgil immediately froze. Sure, Logan seemed chill but what if they were actually transphobic?! Or told everyone?! Or a teacher?! What if the teacher or someone else then told zir parents?! Even if they were cool, zie wasn’t ready to come out to anyone yet!

 Logan must have sensed zir hesitation because they followed it up with “If you do not wish to talk about it, that’s fine. However, I am here if you need me.”

 “Thanks.” Virgil answered simply, starting to be reminded of the reality of zir life. That zie was a lonely, questioning genderqueer in a catholic school filled with cishets, most of them who would be ready and willing to beat zim up if they knew. Sure, zie knew a few queer people but no one who was also nonbinary. The more Virgil thought about it, the more isolated zie started to feel.

 “Do you wish me to escort you to class?” Logan asked, taking zim out of zir thoughts.

 “Oh, um, no. It’s alright.” Virgil said, kind of awkwardly, scratching the back of zir neck.

 “Very well.” Logan nodded, picking up their backpack, which had been resting beside them. It was then that Virgil noticed it. A yellow, white, purple and black badge with “he/they” written on it. Virgil stared at it, stunned. Zie slowly started to feel a warmness and sense of belonging growing in zir chest.

 “Is there a problem?” Logan asked, sounding slightly confused.

 “What? Oh, no!” Virgil said quickly before smiling to zirself. “No problem at all.”

 Huh, Virgil thought to zirself guess I’m not so alone after all.

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[expired-lemonade]

oh dear my parents are reading an article about non binary people and are being very, very enbyphobic

”it’s a trend”

”they’re showing it to the kids”

”they don’t know what gender they are?”

”they’re weird, or maybe gay, or just wackos”

they’re misgendering someone who uses they them pronouns and calling them “she”

”theyre all just gays”

”it means two people, ‘they’ doesn’t mean one”

”it’s bullshit”

“they’re lying for the trend”

”this is what the government wants”

”....indoctrinating kids”

”theyre using hormone therapy on kids“

my moms reading about gender identity and pronouns

i’m shaking

they mentioned bigender fuck

”now they’re saying there’s a spectrum of genders”

”there’s a man and a woman, not alien, this is out of control”

”i remember when it was just lesbian and gay”

”this is fucking bullshit”

”these they thems are gonna get its head blown off”

shit i’m crying hh